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Accompanying Supportive Spouse (ASS for short)

Back in the autumn of 2019 (you remember... when life was normal), I had just moved to Switzerland (our family's fifth expat assignment) and was contemplating an idea for a book. The terrible term trailing spouse kept creeping into my mind.

I can't stand being called a trailing spouse; I find it completely condescending. If someone ever uses it to describe me, I'm quick to correct the assailant with another term - badASS. You'd think at this point in time, people would know better than to use a term coined in the 1980s for ladies that lunch. 

Being a badASS is tough stuff. From packing up your life and moving it to the other side of the world, to figuring out how to pay bills in a foreign language and driving on the wrong side of the road, all while coming to grips with giving up our careers, dealing with loneliness and isolation, and being homesick for your favorite food. BadASSes get shit done. 

And, I don't know about you, but I've never trailed behind anyone.