Every time you walk into the gym, which is sporadic at best, you see the same woman smashing a tough workout. She moves with precision while panting in between sets of what you think looks like a cocktail of crazy movements. You start your workout with an easy walk on the treadmill, but you can't peel your eyes away from her.
When she's finished, you notice her laying on the floor dripping with sweat as she recovers from her intense training. There's a big grin on her face as she wearily high fives the other sweat soaked people surrounding her. She's strong, confident and has a magnetic presence. You think to yourself, "She's so lucky. She's in such good shape AND seems like a cool person too." At that moment, you decide 30-minutes on the treadmill is enough and you look to see if anyone you know is around who might be interested in grabbing a post-workout coffee. She-Ra, Princess of Power, finishes stretching and walks past you on her way to the locker room. Laughing at whatever her friend just said, you overhear her reply, "Right, I'm glad that's done! I'm exhausted. I'll see you tomorrow, right?" You think back to your 30-minute treadmill session where you barely broke a sweat, and you feel a twinge of jealousy, "She is so lucky. I wish I had abs like her." I hate to break it to you, but what you crave has nothing to do with luck. What you're witnessing in She-Ra is consistency, resilience and the power of doing the hard work. I can guarantee she didn't walk into the gym for the first time and start throwing barbells full of weights around and doing push-ups like a Marine. She-Ra did the hard work to claw her way to where she is today by routinely showing up for herself and pushing herself little by little to get to the next level even when she wasn't feeling it. I'm not telling you this fable to inspire you to become an olympic weightlifter, but to remind you that if you have a deep desire to see changes in your life, you've got to accept and be willing to do the hard work. Here's my theory... I find it funny that people who aren't willing to do the hard work are also the ones complaining the most about not having whatever their heart desires. Sorry, but you can't have your cake and eat it too. If it were that easy, we'd all have six-pack abs and be sporting crop tops like Madonna in 1986. When I hear someone say, "I just need someone to tell me what to do," it's like nails on a chalkboard because that's the easy way out. Sorry, sister, but that's not how it works. Even if you have a personal trainer who plans your workouts, YOU STILL HAVE TO DO THE WORK. How hard you work toward your goal is all on you. It's no skin off the trainers back if you don't put some sweat equity into the process. Change can't happen unless you act. You know yourself best. No one has the answers for you - except you. And, no one can do the work it takes to change you - except you. You can get help along the way, but friend, it's gotta be you that puts in the effort, shows up and perseveres when things get tough. Luck only gets you so far; effort will take you pass the goal line.